How can we make him last longer in bed?
I know this is going to be a little odd but i don’t have enough time to research this.. ok, so i am a 21 year old mommy of a 1 year old girl.. (don’t know if that matters any but in case it does you know) i have recently started dating this amazing guy who is intelligent, good looking, has is stuff together, romantic, caring… but he is 18 (totally doesn’t look 18 so please don’t bash me for dating a younger guy) anywho, we have had sex maybe about 5 times and he pre-ejaculates every single time.. the first time was literally like 5 seconds and i gave even the benefit of the doubt but now its like ok, we have already done it a couple of times so its not like its new and i am definitely not his first.. The thought has also crossed my mind that maybe its because he is 18 but i mean, come on guys.. i remember when i was 18 and my boyfriend at that time would go for hours a few times over.. My friends were the same way.. i don’t know, i have heard that PE is a problem for some men but i am sure there are ways to overcome it or at least last a little longer so i can orgasm too.. I know sex isn’t everything but it is important for both parties to enjoy it.. i really like this man and i would hate to not take it further because he can’t last.. any help from anyone? and please only serious replies.. i don’t need to hear put downs..
I remember the days of barely getting in a few pumps before ejaculating all over the place =]. Hopefully you’ll be able to look back and laugh about it. My best tips would be too: 1) Ask him to masturbate every night for at least 15 minutes before blowing his load. Concentrate on stimulating the tip which is the sensitive area and the area that causes him to ejaculate quick. 2) Tell him to breath - Many men hold there breath making them too tense and it causes quicker ejaculations 3) Some positions stimulate the penis more than others. The position I have found that feels great yet stimulates the penis the least is girl on top while the male sits straight up. I think it keeps the woman looser because she is on her knees instead of squating and it still feels great. 4) Also great foreplay. Have him finger you until you reach orgasm and/or give you head until you reach orgasm (again). Then be generous yourself and give him great ( and I mean great practiced head until he reaches orgasm). The better the head the more stamina he will have. 5) Lastly, something that seems to help me is mentally trying to please my women. Concentrating on making her feel good and not how it feels to me. Oh and some lubricants (Not necessarily designed to numb the penis) applied on the penis or condom prolong the sex greatly. Basically, be open and explore !!!!
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August 11th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
1. have lots of foreplay
2. have oral sex, if he gives you it you will get alot of enjoyment
3. when he feels nearing to ejaculate get him to stop and wait a few seconds then start again and repeat it whe he is nearing to ejeculate again
hope i helped a bit lol = ]
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August 11th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Well, he might be feeling intimidated by the fact you’re older than him and, probably, more experienced.
In any case, there are some treatments to fix the little problem, and there are some practices like Tantra that contain exercises to help a man last longer in bed.. There are some that involve mental control and others that are more physical, like separating the testicles from the rest of the penis when he feels he is about to ejaculate or pushing the head of the penis to avoid early ejaculation. I read a book called “Multi-orgasmic Men” and it is pretty explanatory. It may help you, and, if it doesn’t, at least you’ll have a laugh at the things it contains (if you don’t like explicit explanations, that is)
Hope I could help.
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August 11th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Communicate ~ also, remember that series on Sex in the City w/ Charolette’s husband of the time that had PE
Some suggestions on what to do are in this series so you may want to check it out.
Good Luck and don’t worry so much. He may just be less experienced so it makes him a little nervous right now.
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August 11th, 2008 at 12:54 pm
Practice and patience will solve the problem.
Most of the time can be anxiety.
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August 11th, 2008 at 12:54 pm
There is a very simple solution for this, if you want your guy to last longer in bed with you, have him masturbate before hand, and once he’s good to go after that start having sex. After a guy’s first release, the second one will take considerably longer, probably long enough for you to reach orgasm. We’re not talking have him masturbate the day before, have him masturbate 2 hours - 30 minutes before, otherwise he’s going to ejaculate prematurely again. I know it’s going to be awkward to talk to him about this, but if you want pleasure you’re going to have to ask him to do this. Either that, or have him go twice in a row. Some guys are capable of having two orgasms in a row, but it’s a matter of the guy and their stamina. Either that then after the first round, take a ten minute break and go at it again. If he’s unwilling to go for a second round, or is too sensitive to, you could always ask him to pleasure you orally or manually.
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August 11th, 2008 at 12:55 pm
theres diffrent ways of helping him last longer in bed, and theres things he can do on his own, and things you can do to him to help.
one thing he can do is called the “start and stop” method. when he urinates, have him stop in the middle of the flow, wait a sec, and then continue peeing. do this a few times when hes using the restroom and that can increase his stamina. also, he can even do this without needing to pee. he can contract the muscle that is used to start and stop peeing wherever hes at. work, gym, anywhere is fine. have him do it 40 times a day for a while.
the other way is when you two are in bed together. start stimulating him until he feels he is near orgasm. when he tells you that hes close, stop stimulating him. grab his penis in your hand and put pressure on the underside of his penis, so that he doesnt release. hold this until he loses his erection. do this 2 more times before you finally let him come.
hopefully those tricks should help him and you have a better time with each other.
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August 11th, 2008 at 12:55 pm
The squeeze technique is a good way to slow down a speedy ejaculator. Pre-mature ejaculation can have a lot to do with age, but you’re right, it is very much a learned experience. In the meantime, I would recommend you try the “squeeze technique” with him. I’ll include a link, but basically what’s involved is that when he feels as if he’s about to come, he tells you and you grab the base of his penis at his belly and squeeze it hard. Normally that will shut down his pre-mature ejaculation and give him time to recover before he starts thrusting again. It may take awhile but from what you say, he is trainable. Good luck!
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http://www2.hu-berlin.de/sexology/ECE5/squeeze_technique.html
August 11th, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Let him masrebate first before sleeping wiyh you in the bed. Increase the number of intercourses , say do it on daily basis for some time. You must be very careful with him as it could turn in to erectile dysfunction.
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August 11th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
foreskin restoration can regain a more natural rhythm and thus last longer
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August 11th, 2008 at 6:09 pm
I remember the days of barely getting in a few pumps before ejaculating all over the place =]. Hopefully you’ll be able to look back and laugh about it. My best tips would be too:
1) Ask him to masturbate every night for at least 15 minutes before blowing his load. Concentrate on stimulating the tip which is the sensitive area and the area that causes him to ejaculate quick.
2) Tell him to breath - Many men hold there breath making them too tense and it causes quicker ejaculations
3) Some positions stimulate the penis more than others. The position I have found that feels great yet stimulates the penis the least is girl on top while the male sits straight up. I think it keeps the woman looser because she is on her knees instead of squating and it still feels great.
4) Also great foreplay. Have him finger you until you reach orgasm and/or give you head until you reach orgasm (again). Then be generous yourself and give him great ( and I mean great practiced head until he reaches orgasm). The better the head the more stamina he will have.
5) Lastly, something that seems to help me is mentally trying to please my women. Concentrating on making her feel good and not how it feels to me. Oh and some lubricants (Not necessarily designed to numb the penis) applied on the penis or condom prolong the sex greatly.
Basically, be open and explore !!!!
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August 12th, 2008 at 6:48 am
Have him do an exercise called “kegels”, this helps build the muscles that are responsible from the male orgasm. By training this muscle (PC muscle) he will strengthen it, therefore strengthening his orgasms as well. The PC muscle is located right between your scrotum and anus. This exercise is done by flexing the PC muscle. The next time he urinates, have him try stopping mid-stream without his hands, and that is the PC muscle. Contract and release this muscle as many times as he can throughout the day and before you know it he’ll have the ability to last as long as you want.
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August 12th, 2008 at 7:20 am
give him head 1st so he can cum quick
then have sex with him it will make him take longer the second time
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